Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
The last one is a killer and very important.
As someone who was in an emotionally abusive friendship I think it’s incredibly important that more people know about these signs. I didn’t realize what was happening. I became depressed and had a lot if self loathing. It wasn’t until I got some professional help that I realized what was happening wasn’t my fault.
It hurt like hell but oh god,
I loved you.
I don’t anymore.
That fact still surprises me;
When I find my mind conjuring your image after weeks of forgetting,
I feel nothing in my chest
And my mind quickly skips to someone else, somewhere else, sometime in the future.
Then the feeling is in my stomach,
But this time it’s an optimism -
Reaching, yearning for what is to come.
I have found a way to live without you.
I have found proof that pain is not permanent.
I have found out how good I am at surviving.
Date a theatre girl because she is strong. She is not afraid of taking risks or being rejected. Chances are, she’s stood in line with 15 other girls wearing almost identical dresses, while a casting director has walked up and down, saying “yes”, “no”, “yes”, etc. She’s been told “no” by directors more times than she can count, because she’s too young, or too old. Too pretty or not pretty enough. But “no” to her means “not today”, and she’ll try again tomorrow.
Date a theatre girl because she is patient. She has showed up at an open call before the rest of the city is awake, only to realize that she’s number 275 and probably won’t be seen for another six hours. But she brought crossword puzzles with her and she knows how to pass the time. She’s an expert at filling minutes while she waits.
Date a theatre girl because she lives for moments. An audition is usually never more than 60 seconds — 16 bars of a song or a one-minute monologue. This is a tiny fraction of your day, a minute quickly forgotten, but to her, it is everything. For this minuscule pause, she is playing a role, perhaps a dream role; she’s investing all of those hours spent waiting in the holding room, all of that energy, channeled towards this very instant in time.
Date a theatre girl because she is passionate. You’ll notice her eyes change when she talks about performing; they’ll get a shade darker and you’ll know it’s the only thing she believes she is meant to do. That passion is in everything, you’ll realize — the way she laughs at cat videos, how she takes her best friend’s phone calls at 2am, the way she’ll tell stories about the most mundane details of the day.
Date a theatre girl because she understands people; it’s part of her job. She’ll likely be the person everyone goes to for advice; she’ll take care of you if you let her. She knows that good people can do bad things. She forgives, even if she can’t forget. She’ll say all the right words to make you feel better about your flaws, if you choose to believe her.
Date a theatre girl because she isn’t afraid of being silly. She’ll sing along to the radio while driving and serenade other cars in 5pm traffic. She’ll text you pictures of herself making the ugliest faces imaginable because she knows it will make you laugh.
Date a theatre girl because she constantly searches for the extraordinary. She chooses to feel everything to extremes in order to remember it better. She may call it sense-memory, a term from her high school acting class, but it’s habitual now, it’s in her soul. She may cry easily, but if she lets you see it, it’s because she trusts you. Some might call her overdramatic, but she opens her heart to every emotion simply because she’s no longer afraid of it breaking. She knows that one can live with holes; not every void needs to be filled.
Date a theatre girl because she will settle for nothing less than thrilling. If you allow yourself to hold her hand, she’ll make sure your world is also splattered with neon colors. Before you know it, you may catch yourself falling in love with her, and if you do, tell her so. Chances are, she’s loved you from the start.
girls think having a period sucks but try having to fix your penis discreetly through your pocket
having the insides of your organs shed and come out through your genitals does not compare to having displaced balls sorry
none of you can do it discreetly anyways
we see you
everyone sees you